How to Deal With a Mother-in-Law

This is sort of a self help exercise for myself. Most of us guys don’t like our mother in laws…SURPRISE!

1. Try to think of her as an acquaintance. Call her by her first name, she’s not your Mom.

2. Always express your feeling to her and point out the common problems. Don’t make judgmental comments as she does, but let your or wife know that it hurts.  Do not criticize her – remember this /her mother – but don’t protect her either.

3. You must get the support of your wife. Talk with her and explain what the problems and issues are and ask for her help. (it will make you look as if you are seriously trying)

4. Distance yourself as much as possible. A good 10 mile separation is always a good idea.

5. Keep in mind she probably wont change but you are trying.

6. Avoid the triggers that set each of you off.

7. Try to stay calm but try not to be rude about it.

8. Define your boundaries to her. Let her know what is off limits and tell her you will not make exceptions.

9. If Mother-In-Law attempts to use guilt as a tool of manipulation (which is extremely common), Disarm her and leave her empty.

It’s your and your wife’s life, she is part of it but only part. In order for your wife and you to be happy she has to understand you are part of the family.

• If all else fails, run! If the above solution fails, just up and move to another city. Many people swear their marriages have been saved by this solution!